Hello there, dear readers!
Remember when Elisabeth of Optimistic Musings did a Meet a Reader post here?
In our email exchanges, Elisabeth told me she also does a reader interview series, and she invited me to participate.
Her blog is not specifically about frugality, so her interview questions are really different than mine, and it was so much fun to delve into some different topics.
So, click here to visit Optimistic Musings and read my interview.
If you’re in a read-interviews-with-Kristen mode, here’s the time I interviewed myself for a Meet a Reader post. Ha.
(I was in the thick of my divorce at the time I wrote that post, and re-reading it made me so so so so glad that I am all done paying divorce lawyer bills!)
I hope you enjoy the interview; I’ll be popping in over there today to respond to comments, so I look forward to chatting with you all at Elisabeth’s home on the web. 🙂
Jennifer
Monday 4th of November 2024
Kristen, I'm wondering if, due to the events of the last few years, your advice for your daughters regarding love, boyfriends, marriage, etc... has changed and how. If you feel this is too personal, I apologize and please don't feel like you need to answer.
Central Calif. Artist Jana
Monday 4th of November 2024
@Kristen, excellent succinct explanation. I've been wondering what was so damaging about the purity culture. I was raised before the thing had a name and became a fad, when it was expected that Christian kids would wait until marriage. I am convinced it saved me a lot of heartache, so it is interesting to learn how something that sounds good has a dark side.
And you have a wonderful attitude about leaving people (and things) better than you found them. I'm not sure that my former boyfriends think I left them better!
Rose
Monday 4th of November 2024
Well. Hm. It has never occurred to me that I should help to make people better than they were, except for my children.
Now granted, I haven't dated much. Some guys in high school and ditto the first couple years of college. Then I met my future husband and we were together for 26 years, married for 29. I have dated a couple times since then and was pretty bored, and decided that I just don't care if I'm single, it's too much trouble and I'm fine as I am.
The last guy, I think I mentioned this, told me he was going to fight Covid not with vaccines but with crystals. I was amazed because he'd seemed fairly intelligent up till then. I certainly did not think it was my job to teach him that he was a moron.
I guess I feel like I wend my way through life as a neutral. I don't ask anything or expect anything from anyone other than my immediate family. I like to do good by helping homeless animals and helping stock the local food pantries, as well as buying local children coats and Christmas gifts, but I don't think I make things better than they were, as the need is always so much greater than I can help.
I try to do good work, the best to my ability, when I have a job assignment or project, and I think it's generally good, but again, the world is about mediocrity. The magazine I was editor in chief of, which the state press organization awarded me a first prize medal and said the mag was "a masterpiece" is now edited by a dingaling. I was let go because I had the highest salary on staff and salaries had to be cut. So they then made my magazine into crap, but no one cares much. The quality that was there isn't as important as a lower salary.
So this is rambling and I'm tired, but I guess I feel like there is so much uncaring, stupid bilge in the world, from seemingly intelligent men believing in crystals, to people who just don't care about children and animals who need help, to publishers who don't care about quality, that it's not my fault if the world isn't better for my efforts. It's not my problem to solve. All I can do is my best but it's never enough.
Rose
Monday 4th of November 2024
@Kristen, "hopefully at the end of each one, you leave the person you were dating better than when you found them"
Wow. I would never in a million years think that way. I'm kinda flabbergasted actually.
Kristen
Monday 4th of November 2024
Ohhh, for sure. I grew up in the height of purity culture, where the worst thing you could do was have a bunch of relationships before getting married. People wrote books saying things like if you have multiple relationships, you lose a piece of your heart each time and then you are not a whole person when you get married.
As if hearts do not regenerate or grow.
Now I think...if a dating relationship isn't working out, it's fine to end it. And it doesn't matter if it takes a lot of dating relationships before you find someone you want to marry. Each one is a learning experience, and hopefully at the end of each one, you leave the person you were dating better than when you found them. That is not a waste of time, and I think it could save a lot of heartbreak in marriage.
JD
Monday 4th of November 2024
Good post! I enjoyed reading that very much! I enjoyed Kristen's responses and the asides from Elisabeth.
That really is a good set of questions, and some good thoughtful responses. It sure beats those silly FB questionnaires that make the rounds now and then.
Central Calif. Artist Jana
Monday 4th of November 2024
What fun to find not only Elisabeth's blog (can't wait to look at more of her photos), but also the blogs of her commenters. Kristen, I wonder if you could set up your commenting system to include links to websites if your commenters have them.
True confession: I tried to see what apps you have on your phone in that photo of deleting IGram. . . I only have one screen of apps on my phone because I already spend Way Too Much Time reading comments on your blog (and now all those others are vying for my attention—oh no!!)
Central Calif. Artist Jana
Monday 4th of November 2024
@Rose, I wished I knew how to repair my site when it crashed last week instead of having to fork out what to me is big bucks to have it repaired. At least each tech I speak to teaches me another thing. . . sure hope I can read my notes if I get into this pickle again. (I paid for an entire month and am making a huge list of things to learn and fix.)
Rose
Monday 4th of November 2024
@WilliamB, well, that makes me feel a lot better, ha! I got the malware off and now all I have to do is backfill all the content. In my next life I hire IT people imstead of doing all this tedious junk myself.
WilliamB
Monday 4th of November 2024
@Rose, Fun fact: unless you speak them, Indonesian is almost indistinguishable from Malay. They're mutually-intelligible dialects of Bahasa.
Rose
Monday 4th of November 2024
@Kristen, Probably spam.
Ugh, my own site was hacked AGAIN. This time by Indonesians (I'm guessing from the language) instead of the Chinese. I do not want to spend my time cleaning this mess up again. sigh.
Kristen
Monday 4th of November 2024
I did used to have it set up that way, but I turned off that feature once I heard that it is no longer best practice. I'm struggling to remember why it's not best practice. Was it spam? Site speed??
Blue Gate Farmgirl
Monday 4th of November 2024
Great interview! I, too love Minor Key Carols. I love the standards like O Come O Come Emmanuel, We Three Kings..., a family favorite sung year 'round "I Wonder as I Wander". This morning's sunrise was frosted with a lovely double rainbow.
Elisabeth
Monday 4th of November 2024
@Blue Gate Farmgirl, I love I Wonder as I Wander! I don't hear it much at Christmas anymore, but it was a favourite of mine from childhood (maybe because I could relate to being "a poor ordinary" girl?) I also can't get over the underlying spiritual messages written into these classic carols (minor or not). So much depth!
Kim from Philadelphia
Monday 4th of November 2024
Elisabeth, you asked such great questions! Kristen, I loved learning more about you!