Something new for 2025

Over the last few years, I have written little posts/essays about going through my separation and divorce, about the grief and loss, about learning to understand what I went through in my marriage, about deconstructing the beliefs that kept me in that marriage for so long.

These posts have been sitting quietly in my drafts folder because they are really not quite right for this blog.

I mean, I have definitely published some marriage/divorce-related posts here, but the ones in my draft folder felt too off-topic to publish.

Writing them was really helpful to me; it’s been a way of processing things and figuring things out, honestly. 

But I know that there are other women out there who have stories similar to mine; women who followed all the rules, did all the “right” things, tried like heck to be an excellent wife, and still ended up with a marriage that was slowly eating them alive.

And I know there are many women like me who stayed for decades, trying desperately to make things ok, to figure out the puzzle, to finally unlock the key to a decent marriage. 

As I’ve walked this road, it has been astoundingly helpful to read other women’s stories. So, I’m guessing that some of these writings might be helpful to women like me.

one such book that helped me feel seen!

These posts also might be helpful to those of you who want to understand and help women walking this path. 

And since they will touch on topics of grief and loss and rebuilding, they might help those of you who have faced non-divorce-related types of loss. 

I will be writing from my former-wife perspective, so I am unsure if these posts will be helpful to you if you are a man; consider yourself forewarned. 

I want these posts to be available to the people that will be helped by them, but since they will be pretty personal, I also don’t want to just publish them to the whole internet, where every gossip-hungry person can mosey on by and read them. 

For that reason, I decided to put these posts behind a small paywall. I’m not doing this in some sort of effort to get rich; I’m doing it so that if someone wants to access this part of me, they have to be at least a little bit invested. 

I’m setting this up through Patreon, but the posts will live over at my Kristen Prompted URL. 

I have never done something like this before; it’ll maybe be a little glitchy at first, so if you decide to sign up right away, please be patient as I work out all the kinks. 

I just know that if I wait to make absolutely certain all the glitches are worked out, I’m never gonna get this started. 

What you’ll pay and what you’ll get

The Patreon is set at $9.97/month. And what I’m promising right now is at least one post per week, though there may be more if I have time/inclination. I’m sure there will be comment interaction over there too, and I will do my best to be active in the comments, so if you are walking this road, you might find some community and support there. 

To set your expectations properly:

• These posts will be in no particular order.
• They’re not gonna be organized by topic or by a timeline.
• I’m not a divorce/grief expert; I’m just a regular person, writing through the process. 

In “You Could Make This Place Beautiful”, the author writes about feeling unsure if her words are going to help anyone, and feeling like she ought to be more of an expert. And then she says she decided to trust that just telling her story would be enough.

So that’s what I’m doing; putting it out there and trusting it’ll land where it needs to. 

And if you decide what you are getting over there is not worth what you are paying, you can unsubscribe at any time. No hard feelings from me! I just want these words to get to people that will be helped by them. 

Even if it’s just a handful of people! 

How to sign up

If you hop over to Kristen Prompted, you should be able to complete the sign-up right from there (there will be a button asking you to sign up with Patreon.)

And then you should be able to read the Patreon-locked posts. Once you’re signed into the Patreon account, those posts should automatically unlock for you! 

I am positive we will run into some hiccups along the way; leave a comment here if something’s not working, and I will do my best to fix it! 

Edit: We are indeed having hiccups! I think I have a caching issue that I need my hosting company to help me with. But it’s New Year’s Day so I don’t think they can fix it until tomorrow.

Never fear, though; the posts are coming and so is a fix, and I’ll keep you all updated. It’s fine to sign up whenever you want; you won’t miss anything. 🙂 

Got questions? Leave ’em here! 

P.S. All the past posts on Kristen Prompted will still be unlocked; it’s just the new ones that will be behind the paywall. 🙂